You need to make sure you are passing the name argument to the Browse. This should be the key value from the header table. The linkField needs to be the field name in the line-item table that corresponds to the key value in the header table. Double check these options to ensure you are using the correct fields.
If you want two controls side by side, put them in a HorzControl.
You can highlight list items different colors but you must do it manually. This means you would also have to clear the highlight at the proper time manually as well.
To do this you’ll need to get the ListControl by using ExplorerListView’s GetList method. Once you have the ListControl, you can call the HighlightValues method on it. Use the ClearHighlight method to clear the highlight.
I don’t think there’s a blinking button, but you can color buttons using ColorButtonControl. This control supports passing the color initially and also setting on the fly using the SetColor method.